Confessions of a Psychic: Hard Truths in Love
I began my spiritual healing journey after one of the hardest breakups I’ve ever gone through. I saw my first psychic life coach during that time who sent me on a journey that changed my entire life.
Now I would love to tell you that 3 months after I started working with her, I was healed from that break up and was a completely new woman. A woman who knew her worth, value, and met her dream man after her own version of “eat pray love.” But life is not a movie and my life certainly has not been a fairytale.
The truth is I had a lot more frogs to kiss (yes A LOT more) and lessons to learn in love. In fact, it took me about 4 years to truly be able to surrender my love life over to the universe and be happy and content on my own. Prior to that I frantically turned to psychics to ask exclusively about my love life.
When am I going to meet my soulmate? What is he like? What is his name? How will we meet?
Or if another situationship would end with one of my frogs that didn’t turn into a prince I would go to psychics and ask:
Will he come back? Why did he leave? Does he miss me? When will he come back? Did I ruin it?
Some psychics, well the ones I liked, would always tell me what I wanted to hear. “ Yes he misses you and will come back. He just loved you too much and it scared him away. The month of August he will return.”
August came and while that ex may have reached out he had no intentions of forming an actual relationship with me. They were still inconsistent and breadcrumbed me. Whatever reconnection that we did have didn’t last very long and I was back in the same place I started when I saw the psychic…heartbroken.
The psychics that I didn’t like (at the time) told me the honest truth about the relationships I was in. “I see they could potentially come back but if they do they wont change. You need to work on loving yourself first and then the right partner will come in for you. You deserve someone who can treat you well consistently.”
I would think to myself but that person is my soulmate I just know it, this person clearly doesn’t know what they are talking about.
It wasn’t until I started working with my own psychic gifts and spirit guides that I realized some hard truths about love and relationships. What the movies don’t tell us about love. For me, some of the truths I learned were like finding out Santa Claus wasn’t real. But knowing these truths has set me free, helped me grow, and heal. Now I know I am closer to finding healthy love. I no longer waste hundreds of dollars on psychics to tell me what I want to hear instead of what is actually going to help me.
Now I use what I have learned about love and my own psychic gifts to help educate others on the truth about love and relationships. What psychics really can and can not see when it comes to romance. And red flags to look for in a psychic.
As I am about to share these truths with you I want you to keep in mind these are generalizations, nothing is finite and there are exceptions to rules. Take what resonates for you and leave what doesn’t. But I would seriously consider you to challenge yourself on which truth you are resisting and why because there could be some deeper healing that needs to happen there.
Hard Truths On Love:
Soulmates: I could write a whole book on this topic but I want to keep it simple here. There is no “ultimate” soulmate. In fact, we have multiple soulmates in this lifetime and not all are romantic. Some are here with us for a reason, season or lifetime.
Twin Flames: This term makes me cringe now but at one point in my life I believed in the concept of a twin flame. This is another term for the “ultimate” soulmate. The person you need to find in this lifetime to feel complete and experience “true love”. The truth is that you are complete and whole on your own. I will get into this in more detail in another blog post but to some level I do believe we all have a twin flame. My idea of a twin flame describes a very challenging relationship with someone very similar to yourself and mirrors what you need to heal and change but most don’t end up together romantically due to the toxic nature of these dynamics.
What’s meant to be will be: I do believe that to some degree whatever is meant to be will be; however, we all have free will. You can use that free will to push things away from you that are meant to be and delay them. The other part of this truth is allowing things to happen and not trying to force things to happen. I understand this can be a very difficult thing to let go of in your love life but spirit has shown me time and time again that the more you try to control the outcome of a situation the longer it will take for you to call in or attract what you really want.
You have multiple potential romantic partners out there: This concept was hard for me to swallow at first but I actually feel more empowered knowing this. I used to feel there was only one potential romantic match for me and that I had to find HIM. This created so much doubt, fear and anxiety when I dated anyone. How do you know they are the one? I would think. What if I waste all my precious pre Botox years with him and he’s not the right person? It was such a relief when spirit showed me there are multiple potential partners out there that could be great matches. All I needed to do was to get clear on what I wanted and be ready for that relationship when a compatible partner showed up.
Breakups are failures: You did not fail because you got divorced. You did not make a mistake by ending it with a guy you waited 10 years hoping they would change. You did not waste precious years of your life with the wrong one. Like I said before, some people come into your life for a reason, season or a lifetime. Maybe it was part of the plan that you married your high school sweetheart and had two kids only to end up divorced with split custody. Just because something ended doesn’t diminish all the good times and joy that person or relationship brought into your life. And that doesn’t mean your life stops or that you will never experience joy and love again because you will…if you allow it.
Psychics don’t know who “your person” is: This is coming straight from a psychic…we can’t see who “your person” is because of what I have said above. There is no one person for you. What we can do is read the energy of the current situation, give advice, and see what energies may approach you in the near future. But more on this later. Stay tuned for my next blog post, Confessions Of A Psychic where I talk about what psychics can truly see in romantic/love readings!
